violence in relationships

For my blog this week I chose to write about violence in relationships. This is a subject I am familiar with in my own life. My sister married a guy that had domestic violence in his past and told her that it was the previous women's fault as to why they got hit and choked out. He then ended up doing the same to her and spraining her trachea. Violence in relationships is very dynamic because the infamous question that always gets asked is why did they go back to them? The book breaks it down into 4 stages. The first stage is where tension builds and the abusive partner than blames the other for problems or not being supportive. This stage is the emotional abuse of using language and threats. Than the second stage occurs and this you can relate to chinobyl because it is an explosion of anger resulting in physical violence. Than comes the third stage where the abuser becomes very remorseful and apologizes. The abused person than sees and remembers the good side of the abuser and accepts the apology. Than comes the fourth stage and this is called the honeymoon stage where the abuser over compensates the sweetness and the couple feels as if they are back to normal. Than the stages keep repeating themselves. Abusers are in a way sociopaths because they know exactly what to say and do to keep getting thier partner to come back to them. Most men with domestic violence problems have a long history of abusing more than one girl. It becomes a disease or desire to have that much dominance over another person.